How to maintain a good relationship: Must read!

Most people play with dating and relationships as soon as they get bored, such as sports, fun hobbies or cheap toys, then you're going to put it aside and separate, but this "casual style" of dating is impossible for an emotionally stable person. Let me tell you why! Intense amounts of hormones - dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin - flood the brain when you kiss, hold hands or have sex. These hormones help us to feel intense spirits, reduce anxiety and make us feel sensitive to each other. These hormones are in nature to encourage reproduction and keep the family together. When we break up we go through the physical withdrawal of these hormones because our brain is no longer getting those hormones.

During breakups, your brain strongly signals you to go back to that source of pleasure by sending you a jolt of anxiety and sometimes even physical pain. If you go back together again, the hormones come back and the feeling of extreme panic goes away and the relaxation comes back. In fact, coming back together can be an exciting time when you first met each other, your dopamine levels going through the roof! However, this does not mean that the relationship is settled. The rush and excitement of coming back together will end after a while and the problems that started as a result of the breakup will finally re-emerge. If these issues are not addressed, another breakup will occur after about 1-6 months.

Relationships can be great. Dating can be a huge thrill of excitement! It's great to have a partner to share your ups and downs. However, these are not games. People’s sensitive, financial and physical health are all on the line. This is a huge responsibility. Loving married people live about 5-10 years longer than unmarried people. However, those who experience a divorce or major breakup are 3-6 times more likely to commit suicide and twice as likely to file for bankruptcy. The notion that “love can heal, but love can kill” is certainly true from this point of view.

So, before you join a dating app before you decide to cheat on your boyfriend or girlfriend before you decide to have sex for the first time before you ask for his girlfriend's number ... ask yourself a few questions.

1. Am I ready for the consequences of my actions?

2. Am I emotionally ready for a committed relationship?

3. Will my current actions probably ruin my life or someone else’s life?

4. Am I ready to give up the freedom to be single?

5. Am I aware of the benefits of being committed or am I just trying to have fun?

6. Am I aware of the potential challenges of being in a committed relationship?

7. Am I emotionally equipped to handle breakups?

And most importantly ...

"Do I really know what I know?"

Know what you want! If you are 100% sure that you only want sex, do not lie and say that you want to get married. If you're just a tall guy, don't date a short guy because you're lonely and he's available (* until you meet a tall guy)). Yourself and your partner

If you want to go beyond your choice and give someone a chance, go for it! But as always, slow it down and be honest about what you are feeling. Once you start exchanging sex, kissing, or any physical intimacy, you will complicate matters further. The moral of the story is, "Don't eat anything until you know what it is, or you can end up eating something poisonous!"

Relationships and sex can be very exciting and fun but the intense “high” feeling only lasts about 6 months to a year. A true relationship involves not only steamy sex and going for a walk together, but also disagreements, sometimes reasoning and communication skills.

Not everyone can be associated with the same kind of relationship. Some have been with only one person all their lives. Some people hate alcohol. Others smoke. Some people like tattoos, while others think they are "rubbish". None of these choices are "wrong", but in order to effectively bond and build good relationships with other people, we must communicate our needs in a way that communicates whether the relationship is at risk of a lifelong commitment, such as marriage, a casual encounter. , Or mutual separation.

All choices come with results --- well, and cons!

Casual hookups can be physically pleasurable and convenient but leave you feeling emotionally incomplete from the risk of disease and sexual behavior.।

Marriage can create a strong partnership and a sense of security, but your time and energy can be very acceptable.

Breakups can be free and allow you to run new adventures but can be emotionally destructive and financially costly.

Dating, marriage and breakups all require a combination of strategies and flexibility, a positive attitude, planning and a free mind.

As a man in his thirties, I was by the side of every spectrum. I was faithful, unfaithful, I broke down and gave up. I felt it all. When I entered my thirties and found myself still unmarried, I made a firm commitment to myself that I would ----

Respect me in all cases.
Respect my partner in all matters
I demand an action plan at the time of the apology.
Take responsibility when I do stupid things and agree to meet the demands so that it is not repeated.
When dating someone, keep my uniqueness but always be aware that I am part of a “team”. Adopt a team mentality. It's not me VS you, but the US against the problem.
Maintain honest and open dialogue. Matters are not resolved without the consent of both parties. Put everything on the table and try to reach compromises if you don't get 100% of what you want. See you in the middle.
Work on healing past scars. Childhood trauma, addiction, sexual confusion, mistrust of others - try to fix these before getting involved. If you have dealt with it during a relationship, do not hide it from your partner, ask them for help and get over it together. Remember, it's the US vs. problem, not me VS you

I hope this guide helped you. Hopefully, by following these rules you can refrain from hurting yourself and others, mend a broken relationship, or learn to accept failure and stop repeating the same behaviors in your next relationship.

Whether you find yourself at some point in your life, unmarried, in a relationship, happily married, divorced, or fighting a failed relationship, just know that you are not alone. There are other people who are just as happy or just as sad as you at any given moment. There are more than 7 billion people in the world! No matter how good or bad your feelings are, always qualify. Depending on the feeling we may need counseling or extra help but need to change for the better, or being grateful for what you already have is both a strong indicator of a bright future ahead.

Good luck! And remember what the sentence says:

"Those who do not know love do not know God, because God is love."

How to maintain a good relationship: Must read!